When a child has a serious illness, every decision about their care is important. But some decisions are more challenging than others.
Families face difficult decisions throughout care. These decisions may include whether to:
Every decision about your child’s care is important, but some decisions are more challenging than others.
Parents and caregivers have to balance many factors. They must consider:
It can be hard for families to know the “best” choice in care and treatment for their child. But your care team can help you understand:
Every child is different. Treatment for illness works differently in every body. Some important questions to ask the care team include:
After learning about your child’s prognosis and treatment options, a next step is to develop treatment goals.
Goals may include:
Some care goals may extend to the well-being of the family and others including:
Discussing goals as a family can help in making difficult decisions. Goals may change over the course of treatment. Having regular conversations with the care team about options and priorities can reduce stress and help in decision-making.
Decisions may involve difficult conversations with your child. During treatment, many things are out of the child’s control. It is important to provide children with chances to have a voice and contribute to decisions in age- and medically-appropriate ways. Children who feel more power over their care may feel less anxious and be more likely to comply with treatment.
When preparing for difficult conversations with your child:
Care team members who can help include palliative care, child life, psychology, social work, and spiritual care. Your nursing team may also give important insights on concerns and feelings that your child might try to hide from you.
Sometimes, family members cannot agree on a decision. They may have different perspectives on goals of care or what to tell the child. Some conflict is normal, but it can be stressful. In these situations, families can develop an action plan to resolve conflict.
Not all family conflicts can be resolved. But it is important not to let disagreements interfere with your child’s comfort and well-being.
Stress, lack of sleep, differing opinions, and complex information make it hard to manage conflict and make decisions. It may help to seek counseling to help resolve issues and get support for decision-making.
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Reviewed: December 2024
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