Language and Speech Skills for Children Ages 3-4 Years

Speech and language skills develop quickly during the early years of a child’s life, especially in the first 3 years of life. These skills progress at slightly different rates for every child. However, language usually follows natural stages or milestones based on a child’s age.

Language milestones

At 3 to 4 years, your child should be able to:

• Speak in sentences of 4 or more words
• Talk about daily activities with ease
• Speak so that people outside of your family can understand them 
• Understand and answer simple who, what, and where questions
• Know action words (jump, play, eat)
• Understand sizes (big, little) and location (on, under, or behind)
• Know how people use objects (What do you do with a cup?) 
• Ask and answer “yes” and “no” questions (Is he tall?)
• Listen to short stories read aloud

How to help your child learn language and speech

• Sort pictures and items into groups. Ask your child to point to what does not belong with the group. For example, a baby does not belong with a dog, cat, and mouse. If they answer correctly, tell them they are right because a baby is not an animal.
• Help your child use more words and speak longer sentences. 
• Read, sing, or talk about what you are doing or say rhymes.
• Read or tell stories that are easy to follow. Talk about the story with your child. Ask your child what part of the story was their favorite and say what you liked.  
• Act out stories using objects like dolls or puppets or dress in a costume for fun. 
• Look at family pictures. Ask your child to describe what is happening in each one.
• After reading a story, ask your child questions about what they heard.
• Ask questions that make them choose between two objects or activities. (Do you want an apple or an orange? Do you want to play inside or outside?) 

Signs of speech or language problems in your child 

In some cases, children with illnesses may reach milestones later than usual. This may be due to change in their environment, routine, or social interactions. Or, the illness or treatment might harm hearing, learning, and processing skills.

Your child may have a speech or language problem if they have:

• Difficulty understanding and expressing language
• Delay in developmental milestones
• Trouble forming some sounds, dropping sounds, slurring words, or stuttering
• Issues sucking, chewing, swallowing
• Problems making their lips, tongue, or jaw move properly
• Difficulty being understood by others
• Tendency not to talk

Therapy for language and speech problems

If your child has problems with speech or language, your care provider may recommend speech therapy.  

A speech therapist or speech-language pathologist is a care provider who can help your child with speech and language problems. A speech therapist or pathologist models correct sounds and syllables for your child. They also give ideas and homework for you and your child to do at home. This provider may also recommend additional tests or testing to better develop a plan for your child.  

Your provider may refer your child to an audiologist to have your child's hearing tested. If your audiologist says that your child needs a hearing aid, they must use one.  Poor hearing can slow down their learning and language skills and hurt their social skills.

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